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i am not very boisterous, and i respect him to the utmost, everyone that sees our relationship ponders if he is possessed, as he has the ultimate wife, even his sisters said tehy could not take the things from any naija man that i take.

My biggest problem with him is love, he shows me none, but prefers to watch pornos with white girls, and im down for anything, i will but them if he wants, but he totally blocks me out of his life emotionally, whenever he travels, i can NEVER go, like to Canada, but when he is there , he parties and flirts around, i know because people tell me, and coincidences of women picking his phone ... I basically do not know who to discuss this with , maybe there is something im doing as an american woman that is something a naija woman would do that i dont know, because i am the one who suggests things for him to do with me intimately, and he forbades it , but yet oogles it on screen, and probably does it when he is outside, i hate to ruin my marraige over this issue, but after 6 years oif non affection, trying every trick in the book, and i do mean EVERY TRICK IN THE BOOK!!!!!!!!! any advice is welcomed, as i need affection to, it is only natural. thank you for reading this.139189724 #17466By nai1 on Monday, February 06, 2006 - am I am a african american women married to an Igbo Nigerian man.

They relate to their fathers and mothers differently.

They believe it is “a man’s world” and so they have the tendency to relegate women to subservient roles. True globalization and modernity and westernization are impacting the Nigerian culture.

Why do African men go home to marry instead of marrying the women they’ve wined and dined and romanced right here in the US. More often than not most of these marriages are not based on love or affection.

Most of these women are well-educated, well-read and well-traveled; they are well mannered and have proven their reliability. Globalization and modernity may be creeping in on and chipping away at his manhood, he has found a way to protect his playground. To make his thoughts a reality, he marries a greenhorn. Most are not even like the marriages of yester-years: a contract and a union between two families.

All these adjectives (and more) describe the quintessential Nigerian man.

A lot has been said about him…some good, some not so good.

I dont know if it is a cultural thing or if it is just the man that I am married to.

I have also tried my best to support him in any way I can.

” he is doted and waited on hand and foot by the female folk in the family…whether mothers, sisters, aunties and their girlfriends/wives are expected to pick up from there.

How many a little girl have had to wash dishes and when asked if Junior can join her, have been told “No! ” How many a heart has been broken by those brown, twinkly eyes and wicked, dimpled grin?

The countless “I’m sorry, I’ll never do it again” to the “It wasn’t my fault, she tricked me…into getting her pregnant!

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